Thanks for clicking the URL in my Twitter profile. I am the Pastor and Director of IMPACT195 School of Ministry which is a ministry of the Rock Church San Diego.

This is my personal blog. I am passionate about helping people have great relationships with God and others. Mostly because I walked through a very difficult upbringing and by God’s grace have been healed and ‘reprogramed’ myself to have good relationships.

As a result I write on how to develop intimacy with God, growing in your identity in Christ, and building strong relationships with others, and, on occasion, I write some stuff that doesn’t neatly fit into these categories.

I also have a week video devotional called, “95 Seconds To Impact.” These devos are meant to be short, sweet, and make you think.

I typically post a couple times a week. To make sure you don’t miss my newest posts, you can subscribe at the top of the page.

My Top Posts:

If you’re new to my site you might want to start with my most popular posts.

How to hook your holy hottie

Love does not parade itself

Who’s your daddy?

Love is not provoked

You can also check my blog’s archive for a list of every post I have written or use the search function at the top of the page to find other posts that might be of interest.

About Me:

I grew up in a christian home and gave my life to the Lord at a very early age-around 5. However, my family life was difficult. My parents divorced before my first birthday. When I turned 9, my mom remarried an ex-Marine Corps Drill Instructor and recovered alcoholic. Even though he stopped drinking he was what is called a ‘dry drunk’. He still acted erratic and had unpredictable explosions of anger and violence.

Not only was he physically abusive but also verbally. One of my step dad’s favorite sayings as he beat me was, “You better pray to God that you have a strong back because the only thing you’ll ever be good for is digging ditches!”

In Jr. High, the I was pulled from normal Math and English classes to special education classes because I had dyslexia. Needless to say, this combined with my step dad’s put downs damaged me. I felt worthless and damaged for decades. The wounds I carried with me damaged the most of my relationships. A path of destruction followed me wherever I went.

My self concept was damaged – I felt like I was used goods. So I gave myself a name, ‘Stained’. I would get depressed and write my name on my arm in indelible marker. I felt like I needed to be marked because I was ‘Stained’.

But then God… In one powerful encounter with God he took my broken identity from me and gave me a new one! Just one of many times God has worked miracles in my life.

But everything wasn’t all lollipop and cotton candy. Even though I made a huge leap forward in terms of my self concept, I still related to God and others with broken coping mechanisms that I learned in my youth. I took me another decade to ‘reprogram’ my paradigms. One of the big steps for me was not only forgiving my step dad but reestablishing a loving relationship with him.

One of the big components in my journey of healing was attending a discipleship school, the Horizon School of Evangelism. After graduating in 2006, I was asked to join the leadership team and since then have been blessed to be used by God to bring healing to others. In that time I have helped launch IMPACT195 School of Ministry, I have helped over 500 people grow closer to God and be used by him.

I have also been blessed to be able to travel to 22 different countries (Egypt, Mexico, Korea, and Israel to name a few) to share the love of God with the poor and needy. I have also had the opportunity to preach the gospel via public radio to over a million people in Poland and Romania. I have also toured the States teaching and evangelizing.

I have been married to my amazing wife, Dina, since 2007 and have three amazing children: Aiden, Callen, and Katelynn. God has taught me so much about his heart as a father through my children.